Recently I had the privilege of being my sister’s maid of honor. I was so thrilled that she chose me over some of her closest friends! It can be easy to get caught up in the moment once you are asked, but remember this title comes with a good amount of responsibility and must be treated as such.
When planning a wedding you want everything to be perfect, but problems are always going to arise. It is up to you as maid of honor to squash any of these issues and make sure your bride remains focused on the task at hand: getting married! Here are a few pieces of advice I have for any new maid of honors that I picked up from my experience.
Being a maid of honor is sort of like being a personal assistant to the bride-to-be throughout the whole wedding planning process. From the engagement to the wedding day, the maid of honor is the bride’s right-hand woman. Give her a wedding planning organizer to help the bride keep up with her wedding appointments and the tasks on her to-do list. From cake tastings to dress fittings, the amount of activities can add up. If her fiancé is not able to attend these appointments, you can accompany her.
Also be ready to assist with the various tasks on the to-do list. This may include making favors, DIY crafts or wedding stationery such as programs. Basically, everything the wedding planner does not do will be your duty. You can also research style and design ideas from bridal magazines, Pinterest and wedding blogs. Another important task that the maid of honor can assist with is creating the bridal registry by going through some of her favorite online gift sites. My sister is big on making things unique and personalized, so that’s something I had to keep in mind. Go with her to the store or complete it online. Small inserts with the store’s logo and website information can be placed in the bridal shower invites (but not in the wedding invitations).
Another huge part that is often overlooked is being her emotional rock. Her fiance is also planning a wedding, so he may be stressed as well. You will need to be the sane one. Check in on her regularly with nothing in particular to talk about. Just make sure everything is going well and listen to any frustrations or complaints she may have, and trust me she is going to have some.
As the maid of honor, you are going to be instrumental in planning the bachelorette party and bridal shower. Both of these are big events on the road to the wedding and set the tone for the big day. What I recommend is sitting down with the bride and figuring out what you want both events to look like. With the bachelorette party in particular you need to keep cost in mind. Touch base with everyone that is attending and find out what people are willing to spend and then craft a night around that. Also for the bridal shower, a lot of the decorations and party favors can be made at home or purchased inexpensively online. This can be especially fun if your bride is the crafty type and enjoys this kind of thing. No matter what you decide on, just make sure the bride is happy with both events.
On the actual wedding day, the ladies usually share a space to get ready for the grand processional. Make sure you are standing by to help the bride in any way. Because you never know what might occur, it’s a good idea to come prepared. On my sisters day I had an emergency bag consisting of anything I thought could be helpful on the big day. If you think you may need it pack it, if you know you’re going to need it, pack two. Wedding days can be a long process, you never know what may pop up.
A maid of honor is responsible for wearing many hats during the entire process, but the bride wouldn’t have asked you if she didn’t think you were up to it. Just be sure to stay organized and have an idea of what needs to happen when. After all is said and done you will be able to look back with pride at what a wonderful job you did as a maid of honor.
Today’s post is a guest post from Morgan Gray. Morgan is a writer from NY with a degree in media production. She became very inspired after her sister named her maid of honor and hopes that her experiences and tips prove useful to the Save the Date community.